Be My Valentine: How to find love for Valentine's day.

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” ― Audre Lorde

valentine's day lingerie

I've never been a girly girl.

I don't do frou frou, I don't do precious, and I especially don't do Valentine's day. Until, that is, I started making lingerie. 

valentine's day lingerie

Under the guise of "research and development" one of the first things I did when I started making undies was to go out and buy some for myself. I had never paid too much mind to my underwear so I knew that I needed to learn a thing or two before launching myself into the making of it. 

valentine's day lingerie

Instead of learning about the construction of the garments or how to fit someone in the right bra I found myself on a crash course of self love.

red lingerie

Yes, the cheesy catch phrase thrown around lately by everyone claiming #bodypositivity on social media for likes. 

self love

I went through puberty very young and have basically been a 34D or 34DD size medium, 27 jeans since I was 12.

I have filled out more, and changed a bit here and there, but for the most part I have had the same body for a long time. When you're 9 and you start growing breasts it's terrifying. And when, by the time you are 11, you've started your period you're living in a child's nightmare.

So by the time I was 12 and the changes finally stopped happening and I settled into my body, I didn't exactly embrace having tits and hips, I just learned to deal with them. 

So when I found myself at Winkworth in Red Hook, Brooklyn being encouraged to try EVERYTHING on until I found things that I genuinely loved and fit like a glove I realized just how much I could love wearing pink lace and how much I LOVED MY BODY in the lingerie. 

#selflove achieved. 

Now, for holidays like Valentine's day I've replaced my sneer and I use them for my own cause, self love. Buying myself something that I genuinely love on my body for myself has become a new ritual. Whether or not there is anyone else there to enjoy it with me is not important. 

The point I'm stressing here is that, reclaiming a hallmark card holiday for yourself can feel pretty damn empowering if you carve out a little time to find something that can turn you on to yourself.

It's worth it, trust me. 

 Model: Chloe is wearing pieces from the Be Mine Valentine's Day Collection

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